Internet dating sites can be very useful. You’re able to explore all kinds of options in a short amount of time in the comfort of your own home. While you browse through the profiles you can pick the ones of interest and learn a few things about the person. All of this before you even decide to initiate a conversation.
The drawback? That increased communication before the first date can lead to extra excitement over your first in person meeting. Why is that a drawback? Because the extra excitement tends to produce higher than normal expectations which in turn can lead to greater disappointment if things don’t go the way you thought they would.
Sometimes this downfall can be really accentuated by one glaring, unexpected trait in your date. Sometimes it’s amusing, sometimes frustrating, sometimes even a little frightening. Read on to learn to how deal with one of the more common blind date surprises; your date is shorter than you are;
This is a fairly common occurrence in the world of online dating. People have the unfortunate tendency to exaggerate their profiles. Which in this particular case was cute enough that you were ready to meet his mother! Add that to the fact that he could carry a conversation and the decision to meet in person was an easy one.
You look hot, you’re all nervous and excited and full of anticipation and then you get there; and he’s shorter than you. Which you didn’t know, nor expect. It’s the movie star thing; they look way taller on-screen, both movie and computer.
Yes, I know it’s a bit of a letdown. It doesn’t seem to matter how modern we women like to say we are, we still want to feel like “girls”. That includes being with a man who looks big and strong in comparison. I’m not saying we’re all like this. I know more than a few women for whom the whole height thing doesn’t matter in the least.
Despite your disappointment you’re going to suck it up, right then and there, and go on this date. No excuses! Don’t be rude. And while you’re recovering from the let-down, think back on what made you decide to go out with him to begin with. Remember all the things you talked about? Remember the things you already know and like about this person? Right, so keep an open mind. You could end up thinking that this guy is absolutely terrific!
I won’t downplay the importance of attraction in a relationship, so if it’s not there, it’s not there. You absolutely shouldn’t feel bad about it. But give it a shot; at the very least, you could end up with a great new friend.
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