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When internet dating came into the mainstream you welcomed it with open arms; why wouldn’t you? Yet you remain cautious when it comes to the grandfather of introductions; the blind date. Don’t make the mistake of thinking they’re one and the same. Internet dating differs from the blind date in that you usually end up knowing more about your internet date than your blind date before you meet in person.
Most people believe they know themselves best. Taking that thinking one step further, they reason that no one could possibly find potential matches for them. This is erroneous thinking, and here’s why;
1. You’re busy
Instead of putting it all on yourself to find time for your career, your friends, maybe your kids, taking care of yourself and maybe some kind of dating life, trying putting some of it off on other people! Namely, the dating part.
Which you well know is something that your friends would be only too happy to help you with. There are no guarantees of course, but there are no guarantees about anything in life. It could just as easily turn into a great date as a dud. At the end of the day (or evening) it’s just one date.
Internet dating sites can be very useful. You’re able to explore all kinds of options in a short amount of time in the comfort of your own home. While you browse through the profiles you can pick the ones of interest and learn a few things about the person. All of this before you even decide to initiate a conversation.
The drawback? That increased communication before the first date can lead to extra excitement over your first in person meeting. Why is that a drawback? Because the extra excitement tends to produce higher than normal expectations which in turn can lead to greater disappointment if things don’t go the way you thought they would.
Sometimes this downfall can be really accentuated by one glaring, unexpected trait in your date. Sometimes it’s amusing, sometimes frustrating, sometimes even a little frightening. Read on to learn to how deal with one of the more common blind date surprises; your date is shorter than you are;
This is a fairly common occurrence in the world of online dating. People have the unfortunate tendency to exaggerate their profiles. Which in this particular case was cute enough that you were ready to meet his mother! Add that to the fact that he could carry a conversation and the decision to meet in person was an easy one.
While walking through a crowd, you hear the chatter and laughter all around. You see couples walking by smiling and holding hands. You wonder to yourself, how did they meet? Did they meet at the grocery store, while during laundry or are they result of an internet dating connection?
Whatever the case, inside you wish that it was you that were a part of a twosome. Rest assured that everyone has felt this way at one point or another in their life. There are still many who happen to still feel this way. They wonder why it is that they have yet to find the special someone. It seems to be a healthy part of nature. You grow up, go to school, get a job and fall in love.
Along with that, many people even hope to get married one day and maybe have children. Perfect right? Then in an instant your plans seems to change. One thing to remember is not give up. If you keep positive and remain aggressive, it will be only a matter of time before you meet someone and have the life you want.
I have a Facebook account so I can keep in touch with friends from all over the world. Recently a friend of mine posted a You Tube video entitled “Don’t Let Facebook Ruin Your Relationship”. It was funny while I was viewing it but afterwards I felt just a bit sad.
As the couple in the video ranted and raved about each other’s Facebook activity and who they “talked” to, it became clear that they each spent a considerable amount of time checking up on each other. Perhaps they were worried that their partner was involved in internet dating or something similar.
When I finished watching the video I started to think about social networking and privacy. There’s no question that social sites like Facebook are an excellent way to stay in contact with colleagues, friends and family. However, are privacy issues a concern?
Along with this video, there have even been instances where an employee posted a rant about their boss on their social page and unfortunately the boss saw it and the person was soon dismissed from their job. So not only are people getting in trouble with their relationships, but some are getting trouble on the job and even losing their jobs.
You’ve taken the plunge and signed up for an internet dating site. You’ve spent considerable time creating an amusing profile complete with photos. You’ve done your best to showcase yourself in a positive light.
Now the fun begins; it’s time to start searching for the man or woman of your dreams. Using the site’s built in search, you select your dream date’s criteria, hit the search button and wait for the results. Seconds later, your matches are displayed.
As you read through the profiles looking for clues of his or her personality, there are a few things you need to keep an eye out for. These are character traits that are not particularly flattering. More importantly, they could be relationship deal breakers.
Spitefulness. The occasional sarcastic remark disguised as a joke is amusing. But if your date has nothing but sarcastic and critical things to say about the people in his or her life, think twice. Ask yourself this question; If your date says nothing upbeat and encouraging about anyone else, what is he or she going to say about you?