This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.
There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: Some men think they are too old. Some men think they are too fat. Some men think they are too short. Some think they’re too ugly.
We should take just a moment to drive out these few myths of attraction, since they do hold many men back from having a successful love life.
Myth #1 – You have to be good looking to get women.
All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case. Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness. Is there a difference?
Although you cannot control whether you are good looking or not, however you do have control of how you present yourself. You do control how you groom and the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, how you smell and so on. These are all aspects that factor into looking good. Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.
Myth #2 – Women Think Just As Men Do
Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.
Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.
By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.
This is incorrect.
Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.
Women find attraction by how a man makes them feel, more so than how he may physically appear. This explains their attraction to social status and confidence. Men who make them laugh, are good at what they do attract women. Physical looks has very little to do with whether a woman is attracted to a man.
Myth #3 – Women Notice Men’s Insecurities
Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline.
No matter what it is, we see it!
And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren’t very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they’re not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.
Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.
Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it. It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.
Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy
Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.
Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she’s around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.
If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.
However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.
This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.
You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.
As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.